In today’s world it’s all too easy to get distracted from what’s truly important. Wherever you go, and whatever you do, you see messages designed to get you to perform a specific action and distract you from the fact that you are already whole.
There are no reminders to be mindful unless we create them.
The responsibility is in your hands. Staying in the present moment can dramatically reduce stress, increase your happiness, and give you bursts of insight that might change your life.
Here are a few down-to-earth tips on how to become more mindful:
1. HAVING POOR EATING AND DIETING HABITS
Not feeling comfortable in your own skin is probably one of the worst — if not the worst — feelings a person can experience.
Unfortunately, instead of making the changes to alter this predicament, people sadly accept it and think that’s just the way their lives have to be.
The sooner you realize this does not have to be your lifestyle, the happier and more comfortable you will be.
2. OVER ANALYZING SITUATIONS THAT HAVEN’T EVEN HAPPENED
It’s human nature to stress about things that have yet to happen, but when you think about it rationally, what’s the point? You can’t predict the future, and you certainly can’t change something that has not even happened yet.
Deal with the situation as it comes, and react accordingly. It’s the only way to mold the experience to your benefit.
3. WORRYING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE TO THE POINT OF EXHAUSTION
I get it. You want to look your best. Honestly, in the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter if you wear your hair curly or straight. There’s no reason to try on every single outfit in your closet before going out.
Think about it: You bought these items for a reason… put something on, smile at yourself in the mirror and be on your way. You have better things to concern yourself with, or at least you should.
4. NOT LIVING IN THE MOMENT
This goes hand-in-hand with overanalyzing situations that have yet to happen, but this includes your past mistakes and situations that have already come and gone as well.
The only thing you can gain from the past are the lessons it taught you. No good can come from replaying situations you cannot hope to fix. Make peace with them and move on… because who you were then is definitely not who you are now.
5. SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO DON’T MAKE YOU HAPPY
Why people still hang around others out of obligation is utterly beyond me. Learn to accept that, sometimes, people from your past serve little to no role in your present. In actuality, they bring stress and drama into your life because you feel as if it is your responsibility to deal with their issues.
Their problems are their own, and as you grow up, this is something that becomes more and more apparent.
6. FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE INSTEAD OF WHAT YOU DO HAVE
Do you know how many people would be over the moon with their lives if they had what you had? I’m not talking about material things either — although they do fit in this category.
Surrounding yourself with great friends who care about you and a family who loves you are two of the most amazing things to have in your life. So stop worrying if you have the latest trendy item and appreciate the intangible items all around you.
7. HOLDING ON TO GRUDGES AND ANGER
You know who suffers from holding on to anger? You do.
When people hold on to bitterness and grudges, they falsely believe that they are making the other person suffer. In reality, the object of your anger disregarded your feelings in the first place, and isn’t losing sleep over your lingering distaste.
What makes you think this person is dwelling on the situation? Even if someone has not given you the apology you rightfully deserve, just let it go.
The sooner you stop caring, the better off you will be.
8. LIVING TOO MUCH IN YOUR PAST
Your past is… your past. It happened. Learn from it and let it be. There is nothing you can do to change it, so the sooner you accept it for what it was, the quicker you will be able to make peace with it.
Stop holding people to standards that you created in your mind years ago. Take people for who they are and what they have to offer now. You will be pleasantly surprised to see how much people can change and mature over the years.
9. …ACTUALLY, JUST COMPLAINING
Can everyone just stop complaining altogether? How much more positive would your life be if you stopped looking at the world as a glass half empty?
The only thing that complaining does is bring negative energy into your life, and, honestly, who the hell wants a life full of that?
10. LIVING THROUGH OTHER PEOPLE’S LIVES
Whether it’s reality television or social media, living your life through other people’s experiences is nothing to be desired. Instead of lounging around, longing for a life of fun and travel, go out there and make this reality your own.
11. TRYING HARD TO BE SOMEONE ELSE INSTEAD OF EMBRACING YOUR ACTUAL SELF
Instead of focusing your time, effort and attention on other people’s lives, take that time and focus on your own. Concentrate on making yourself better instead of comparing yourself to someone else.
You will never be that person, no matter how hard you try. Reflect on your life and your decisions and figure out a way to be the best possible version of yourself you can be.